5th Feb 21

Melissa

She caught my eye the moment I walked into the room.  Her eyes were glazed over.  She looked scared.  But there was a touch of cheekiness hidden there too. 

I’ll call her Melissa.  The student I’ll never forget.  She was only one of many needy students.  The majority had been sent here because they didn’t have jobs and hadn’t completed year 10.  I began to have my eyes opened to a whole new group of people.  People I once blamed for being homeless, taking drugs, stealing.  Now I saw them afresh.

Snippets of Melissa’s past were slowly revealed as she began to trust me more....

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Book on its way

My first book,  about sibling rivalry, is on its way.  It's currently being illustrated by Karen Sagovac.  Here's a sneak preview of my characters:

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Recognising domestic abuse in its various forms - it's not all about physical violence.

 

In the past it seems ‘domestic abuse’ was referring to physical violence only   There’s so much more to it that’s finally becoming recognised. 

Emotional abuse (or coercive controlling) is very common but is hidden away, in most cases, behind closed doors.  The long-term effect on the victim is usually psychological damage which can result in the victim turning to drugs or violence themselves if they can’t find a way to escape.

I have seen a parent lose her children to an abusive, alcoholic father after she turned to drugs to escape the pain and her access to the children was removed.

I have watched a young mum become more and more withdrawn and become thinner and thinner as the husband took more and more control over her everyday life.  Because there were no physical scars on her or her children, there was no ‘evidence’ of abuse and so it wasn’t seen as ‘serious’ according to the law.

Another woman who’s been married for over 50 years can’t be away from her husband for more than an hour before phone calls start and she feels she has to return home to her husband, who is sitting in front of the television all day, and wait on him.

So much more needs to be done to help the victims.  We need to recognise, here in Australia, that emotional abuse is a form of domestic violence as much as physical violence is.